How to do anal sex (photos)

Anal sex can feel great, which is why many people include it as a regular part of their sex life. But notes that anal sex can hurt if you’re not relaxed or if you don’t use lube. As we explain below, it’s not something you should jump into without a little preparation. using plenty of lube and starting by inserting smaller things (like a finger) into your anus, then working up to bigger things (like a penis) can lessen the pain. You should also keep an open flow of communication during partnered anal sex so you can tell your partner how fast or slow they should go, if you need more lube, what feels good, and anything else that’s on your mind. Great communication can help you have a more pleasurable experience.

Anal Sex: Safety, How tos, Tips, and More

How to ask your partner if they’re ready to try anal sex

Anal sex tips aren’t just about the right positioning or lubrication. If you’re considering having anal sex for the first time, you’re probably wondering how to do anal—how do you prepare, relax, and enjoy the intimate moment with your partner? And is anal sex safe?

For a mantra to guide you through your first anal sex experience, staff sexologist Carol Queen, PhD, suggests the following: “Relaxation, lubrication, communication.” The advice, below, is all essentially variations of that trio. Read on for more in-depth advice on how to prepare for anal sex and make your first time safe, comfortable, and pleasurable.