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Understanding Porn Addiction and How to Get Help

I don’t think people go to porn to learn about how to have sex – just like they wouldn’t learn how to drive by playing GTA. But the problem is that many of us have had pretty bad sex and relationships education. This means there’s a gap between fantasy and reality. Also many young people haven’t had sex so they don’t have much real life experience to compare it to. So we learn about having sex from the sex we see, in: films, TV shows (like Game of Thrones), and porn.

Some things are so common in porn that you might think it’s ‘normal’ and that’s what everyone does in real life. For example cumming (ejaculating) is very popular in porn, but not everyone likes it really. Just as in films and TV shows the sex that they show is usually the same and in the same order: ; clothes off; ‘‘; and ??. This website is all about how this script for sex can make it harder to have more consensual and enjoyable sex.

The way people watch and engage with porn is very complicated though. So just because something is filmed in a particular way doesn’t mean that that’s how the viewer is going to see it. This means that even though most porn is made for men, a lot of women really like it. According to the Porn Hub report, 27% of visitors to their website were women in 2018 in the UK.

Porn is really good at showing lots of people having what looks like very pleasurable sex. However it’s really bad at teaching how to actually have really pleasurable sex. In order to have really great sex the most important thing is to work out what it is you want (and don’t want) and to try and find a way to communicate this to someone else.